Why

Why is an all-consuming thought occurring after the loss of a loved one through suicide. Searching for theanswers to why is normal.

Why did this happen?

Many studies of suicide suggest it comes about because of intense psychological pain and extreme feelings of hopelessness so severe and unbearable that those enduring it believe that it can only be stopped by death.
The tragedy of suicide is that those we have lost cannot see that their pain was only temporary.

Why didn’t I know?

Many of those suffering depression may make some effort to hide it. It is difficult to determine when someone is at very high risk of suicide. This is partly because most people just don’t know the symptoms of depression or the warning signs of extreme hopelessness or suicide.

Why didn’t my loved one or friend tell me?

Being suicidal is a tremendous psychological burden that may distance those bearing it from those who care about them. Psychological pain is not conducive to open communications, it can be distracting and consuming, removing the sufferer’s sense of control and the sense that anything can be done about it.

Most suicidal individuals do not really want to die. They just want to end their pain and hopelessness. Tunnel vision is part of being suicidal.